Whether you're working with a new boss or one you've been reporting to for quite a few years, the following suggestions might be helpful:

- Stop trying to change your boss. Change your own behavior to get along with the boss.

- Don't assume that you know you boss's goals. Make sure you're fully aware of what the boss is trying to accomplish. If necessary, ask clarifying questions and point-out inconsistencies when tasks seem out of line with stated goals.

- Make sure your priorities are in line with the boss's priorities.

- Don't indulge in petty resentments. Go more than halfway to make the relationship work.

- Study you boss's personality style and preferences. Know the best time and the best way to present information to the boss and to get approval for something you want to try.

- If the boss doesn't accept one of your suggestions, try to look at the decision from the boss's point of view.

If you preach teamwork, do you work well with others?

If you ask your people to take risks, does your behavior match your words?

If you recommend lifelong learning, do you attend seminars and keep up in your field?

Managers who fail to practice what they preach, lack credibility. Others won't follow their advice.

-- Put this reminder on your office wall:                        'WALK THE TALK' 

A report issued by the Forum Corp. and reported in Across the Board shows that 'humility' helps build trust with colleagues.

By admitting doubt or error and acknowledging mistakes, managers were felt to be competent. Co-workers thought, "I can trust you. You don't try to bluff me".

Other findings: Colleagues rated highly trustworthy were also rated highly competent.

Also: To build trust, you must be seen as a collaborator, not as a competitor.